Bereavement support overview

Overview

Bereavement is the period of sadness, numbness, and adjustment after someone dear to you dies. Grief is the natural emotional response to that loss. Bereavement support helps you cope with the many feelings and practical changes that come with loss.

Grief is universal – almost everyone experiences it at some point in their lives.

Bereavement affects people of every age, culture, and background. It may follow the death of a partner, parent, child, sibling, friend, or someone else important to you.

Symptoms

Common symptoms

• Deep sadness
• Feeling numb or in shock
• Anger or guilt
• Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much
• Tiredness and physical aches
• Problems concentrating or feeling confused

Causes

Main causes

• The death of a loved one, including a partner, parent, child, sibling, or friend.
• A stillbirth or death of a newborn baby.
• A sudden or unexpected death, such as an accident, suicide, or violent death.
• An expected death after a long illness – you may start grieving before the death (anticipatory grief).

Risk factors

• Limited close social support
• A history of depression, anxiety, or other mental health problems
• A particularly close or dependent relationship with the person who died
• Multiple losses in a short period of time
• Traumatic or violent circumstances around the death

When to see a doctor

See a doctor urgently if:

• If you have thoughts of self-harm or suicide, call your local emergency number immediately.
• If you are so overwhelmed you cannot care for yourself or those depending on you.

Book a routine appointment if:

• If grief has not begun to ease after a few months.
• If you are struggling to return to work, school, or everyday activities.
• If you feel anxious, depressed, or are using alcohol or drugs to cope.
• If you want guidance on finding a support group or counselor.

Diagnosis

Bereavement itself is a normal life event, not an illness. A healthcare professional will ask about your feelings, how long you have been grieving, and how much it affects your daily life. This helps them tell the difference between normal grief and depression or complicated grief.

Tests that may be done

• No medical tests are needed.
• Your doctor may ask you to fill in a short questionnaire about your mood, sleep, appetite, and ability to function.

What to expect at your appointment

During the appointment, it's okay to be emotional. The doctor or nurse is there to listen, offer reassurance, and let you know about support services. They may also ask whether you have any suicidal thoughts, which is a standard safety question.

Treatment

Bereavement support aims to help you process your loss and gradually return to a meaningful daily life. For most people, this involves time, family and friends, and simple self-care. Some people also benefit from talking therapies or grief counseling.

Self-care at home

• Let yourself grieve – cry, talk, or sit quietly as you feel.
• Talk to people you trust about the person who died and how you're feeling.
• Join a bereavement support group where you can share experiences with others who understand.
• Keep a simple daily routine, including regular meals and sleep times.
• Make major decisions, like moving or changing jobs, a bit later if you can.

Medical treatments

There is no medicine to 'cure' grief. If you develop clinical depression, a doctor might suggest talking therapy, mindfulness, or an antidepressant – always as part of a care plan that includes emotional support. Any medical treatment should be discussed with a qualified healthcare provider.

When is surgery considered?

This condition does not require surgery.

Living with this condition

Grief often comes in waves. Some days are harder than others – that is normal. Try to take one day at a time, accept offers of help, and find small ways to honour the person you lost, such as looking at photos, writing in a journal, or lighting a candle.

Lifestyle tips

• Try to keep a regular sleep schedule and get up at a similar time each day.
• Spend time outside, even for just 10 minutes.
• Limit alcohol – it can make sadness and sleep worse.
• Stay connected with friends, even if you don't feel like talking.
• Consider joining a bereavement group, either in person or online.

Diet and exercise

If you are not hungry, try small, simple meals and sip water regularly. Gentle walking, stretching, or breathing exercises can improve sleep, energy, and mood. Avoid intense exercise until you feel ready.

Mental health and emotional wellbeing

Grief can feel similar to depression, but normal grief usually eases and is mixed with positive memories. If sadness makes you feel worthless, hopeless, or if you cannot imagine feeling better, talk to your doctor or a counselor. If you have thoughts of ending your life, get help immediately.

Prevention

Bereavement cannot be prevented, but early support after a loss can reduce the chance of developing complicated grief. If someone close to you is dying, having honest conversations and building a supportive network may make the grief easier to carry.

Complications

If left untreated

• Complicated grief – intense grief that does not ease and stops you from living
• Clinical depression or severe anxiety
• Sleep problems, poor appetite, and physical health decline
• Using alcohol or drugs to cope
• Relationship problems and social isolation

Long-term outlook

While grief is one of the hardest things a person can go through, most people gradually find a way to live with their loss. With the right support, time, and self-care, feelings usually become less sharp and you can start to enjoy life again – while still remembering the person you lost. It is okay to ask for help along the way.

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